It would appear, at least so far as my brother’s response to me is concerned, that he did it all right; and it would further appear that his spiritual growth and ministries would be evidence that this is the case; but I see it differently. Here is how I understand and see it:

When offense has caused severe injury to person, especially when injury is done to person’s sexuality (because Bible teaches that sexual sins are more grievous because they injure spirit as well as soul and body of both offender and offended), part of true repentance is doing all within power to assist person to heal. Even when it has been  applied to Jesus’ sacrifice on cross so that there is no longer penalty to be paid in eternal damnation, there remains need to cleanse one’s soul with repentant acts of acknowledgement and reconciliation towards person sinned against {by this I mean not that person must necessarily stand before public gathering (unless offense was done against that whole gathering) and declare offense for all the world to know; and I do not mean that they should in any way minimize the redemptive acts of Jesus Christ or the total payment of Christ’s death for the eternal penalty that is the price of committing these sins against another human being. In addition, I do not mean that the guilty person who has been forgiven by both God and person offended should continue to wallow in self-condemnation or self-rejection. But I do mean that he would be open and honest to all he offended -being open and honest and accountable about offense to all  close family members, anyone involved in needed healing process of offended person or persons, and anyone who is being ministered to in the redemptive process of God’s miraculous transformation of offense into ministry for both offended and offender. This would require repeated acknowledgment of sin and ownership of offense (possibly in a variety of venues or situations, and possibly to do so publicly) as well as repeated thanksgiving to God for forgiveness and praise that He is able to take what was grievous offense and use it to bring healing and grace to others (in those same venues or situations). It would also mean possibly attending therapy sessions with offended person if geographic distance permits, or possibly writing letters or doing long distance phone calls during sessions to participate in healing process of offended person; paying money or taking care of some financial responsibilities entailed in injured person receiving healing, and it would mean not hiding guilt/responsibility or denying it when confronted with realities involved.}